Showing posts with label meditation. Show all posts
Showing posts with label meditation. Show all posts

Wednesday, 19 February 2014

10 minutes a day

If you have read my books—or follow this blog regularly—you will know that I advocate daily meditation practice.  I strongly believe in the benefits of practising meditation for a short period of time every day.  Giving oneself a few minutes of quietness and focus every day can be life-changing.

I came across an article today that supports this view. Some struggling schools in San Francisco have implemented ‘Quiet Time’.  A gong is sounded twice a day for Quiet Time.  The article does not mention how long Quiet Time lasts, but the benefits have been extraordinary.  Anti-social behaviour has reduced, as have suspensions, there is less truancy, and academic achievement has improved dramatically.  Read the article at SFGate.

Thursday, 7 November 2013

Conditioned and conditioning

There have been a couple of posts on John Stepper’s blog recently that have interested me.  I also find the conjunction of the two posts interesting.  They both talk about conditioning, but the first is about unhelpful conditioning and the second about skilful conditioning.

Me with monkey c. 1969
In the first blog he relates the story of an experiment with monkeys.  Whilst I am not keen on the existence of the experiment, it does demonstrate the nature of conditioning.  In the five monkeys experiment the animals are conditioned to respond to a stimulus they have experienced.  Eventually a monkey who has never actually had that experience adopts the same response.

We are not monkeys but we are in fact conditioned in the same way. We think that we make decisions and operate from free will, yet we are all totally compromised by our past experience and the influence of others’ past experience.  The only way to truly be able to make choices and actual have free will is to discover spaciousness in the present moment.  The only way to discover spaciousness in the present moment is to practice silent sitting meditation – meditation that lets go of thought.

The response to a stimulus clicks in so fast that we believe it to be automatic, but through meditation practice we can discover that the habitual response can be recognised.  A space can develop where we are able to see the process of perception and response.  Once the habitual response is recognised, there is choice.  We can decide whether to allow the pattern of response to continue, or whether to do something else.

At first we can only barely notice the habit clicking in.  We may feel that our meditation practice is making us more unkind, thoughtless, insensitive, angry, etc, etc . . . but it is simply that we are seeing our patterning for the first time.  At first we remain powerless to do anything about our habitual response and we have to have a sense of humour about that.  Eventually—if we continue to meditate every day—we will develop sufficient spaciousness to actually change our response.

This is where the second of John Stepper’s blogs is of interest, because it is about trying to develop desired, beneficial habits – trying to re-condition ourselves.  How do we develop the beneficial habit of meditation practice?  We want to meditate every day.  We believe that this daily practice will help us – yet it is difficult to get down to actually doing it.  There is a resistance to engaging with the commitment.  John Stepper quotes Martha Beck’s idea of Tiny Resolutions as a first step to achieve a goal.  As an example: if you cannot get yourself to actually do the physical exercise you feel you would like to do, you begin with the tiny resolution of at least touching the exercise machine every day.  Gradually this will overcome the first level of aversion, so that you could move on to the next commitment level of perhaps sitting/standing on the exercise equipment.  And so on.

With regard to our meditation practice, perhaps the first level could be touching the meditation cushion every day; then it could be sitting on the cushion; then it could be five minutes meditation practice . . . and so on.  Perhaps this could be a useful approach to actually getting down to our meditation.

Eventually we will need to let go of all conditioning – even skilful re-conditioning.  Ultimately perception must become clear and direct in the moment, and response clear and appropriate – a spontaneous union of emptiness and form, wisdom and method.  To achieve this goal we begin with our meditation practice so that we can become familiar with awareness in the present moment.

Wednesday, 4 January 2012

Happy New Year

Goodness! 
In all the post-pilgrimage festivity and trying to catch up with posting about Delhi and Kathmandu – and amid sneezing, coughing and feeling low...
I have forgotten to wish you all a happy new year.  How remiss of me.

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!

May 2012 be happy and healthy for you and your loved ones.

Now if you were thinking of making a new year resolution...
may I suggest resolving to practise10 minutes of Letting Go meditation every day.
That would be splendid.

Monday, 19 September 2011

Wise words from our elderly Tibetan friend

'ö-Dzin & Zonga Thongyal 1990
For many years we have been helping an elderly Tibetan gentleman who lives in McCleod Ganj, northern India.  He is now in his late 80s.  We hear from him two or three times a year.  As is quite common with Tibetans of past retirement age, he spends most of his time practising.

Sadly I have never had the opportunity to meet him in person, though 'ö-Dzin did meet him when he went on pilgrimage to McCleod Ganj in 1990.

I was particularly touched by our Tibetan friend's PS to his most recent letter:
“It's very good to do meditation.  I felt happy that you are practising it.  It will help you, not only in this life but in next life also.  Please continue it.”

Thursday, 25 August 2011

Are candles required?

In the mind of the media, meditation—or anything spiritual—is irrevocably intertwined with the need for candles.   Two examples that immediately spring to mind are Teal'c practising kel'no'reem (Stargate) and Kira Nerys consulting the prophets (Star Trek DS9).  Sometimes I find myself wondering how they find the time to set up and light all those candles.  For most of us it can be a challenge to find time to meditate every day – without the need of creating a candlelit environment as well.

So may I state for the record... candles are not required for meditation.

For some forms of meditation a candle is actually a distraction.  If we are trying to let go of thought and sitting with our eyes slightly open to help avoid sleepiness, then the brightness of a candle can be disconcerting and disadvantageous for settling into our practice.

A candle can be used as a focus for meditation as a specific technique.  A butterlamp is ideal for this as it does not create a still and stable flame.  The flame will splutter and flicker, and it is this movement that we use as a focus.  We find the stillness of mind in the movement of the flame.

I do light a candle every day when I set up offering bowls in our shrine room, but this is a Buddhist ritual practice not a meditation – although it has a meditative quality to it in that the offering bowls should be set up mindfully.

Friday, 1 July 2011

Have you had your 10 a day?

At the beginning of establishing a meditation practice the discipline of sitting every day can seem daunting.  Often new meditators feel that they have to sit for twenty or thirty minutes to make it worthwhile.  If we are struggling with distraction or sleepiness however, this can seem like an awfully long time, and then there can be the temptation to lapse into daydreaming to avoid the frustration of the struggle to remain alert.

Ten minutes meditation a day is actually sufficient and will quickly establish a healthy pattern of daily practice.  Does ten minutes even feel too hard to do every day?  Then decide to meditate for the length of three breaths several times a day.  Simply stop—wherever and whenever you happen to be—and take three long slow breaths.  Breathe out into the empty moment at the end of the out-breath, letting go of whatever is in your mind.  After three breaths continue with your day.  If you do this practice several times a day it will quickly add up to ten minutes of meditation.  Once this practice is established you may find that you naturally move into a more formal practice of sitting for a ten minute period, letting go of the content of mind on the out-breath.

Tuesday, 29 March 2011

Relaxing into Meditation group and class

A week has gone by already since the first meeting of the Relaxing into Meditation Group.  It was a most enjoyable and successful evening.  There were seven of us altogether and another four people who sent apologies for the first meeting but want to come to another one - so this is a good beginning.  We practised Tense and Relax, Refreshing Stretch, Singing Om, A'a and Hung and two ten minute periods of Letting Go.  Then we had a cup of tea with biscuits and a chat so that everyone could get to know each other.

We have decided to meet twice a month on the second and fourth Tuesdays of the month from 7 till 8, so the next meeting will be on 12th April.  Do contact me for details if you would like to come along and join us for this hour of practice.

The first evening last Thursday of my 7 week course on Relaxing into Meditation, at Aro Ling Buddhist Centre in Bristol, also got off to a good start.  It was a lively and intelligent group of people who asked great questions.

The flower is from my garden.  The spring sunshine has been replaced with gentle refreshing rain today which sparkles on the perfect camellia flowers.

Tuesday, 22 March 2011

Today!! Relaxing into Meditation

Evening group today 22nd March

Still a couple of places left for this evening of relaxation and meditation.  Contact me now for venue details.

Contact me via this blog, Facebook (Nor'dzin Pamo) or on Twitter (nordzin).

Relaxing into Meditation
Tuesday 22nd March
7 pm – 8 pm
Whitchurch, Cardiff

Come along and enjoy an evening of exercises to relax the body and calm the mind.
No previous experience necessary. Everyone welcome.
No charge – donations welcome.

At this practice group Nordzin Pamo will lead short sessions of
relaxation, breathing exercises, and meditation.
The author of Relaxing into Meditation, she has
25 years practice experience. 

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Relaxing into Meditation by Ngakma Nor'dzin
Aro Books worldwide  ISBN 978-1-898185-17-8 http://bit.ly/nrprim

Available from Lulu.com, Amazon.co.uk, Amazon.com, and other bookshops worldwide. 

Tuesday, 15 February 2011

Asana magazine article


Asana, an international Yoga journal, asked me to write an article for their magazine and it was published in their January 2011 edition.  They asked for a particular layout and format with numbered points.

Relaxing into meditation teaches us how to live contentedly with a sense of well-being.  We discover spacious peace of mind even when our life circumstances are far from ideal.  Relaxation teaches us how to relax the body and meditation teaches us how to relax the mind.  We discover that total relaxation of body and mind is our natural condition.

1. Relaxing the body.

Stress and unhappiness manifest in the body, so we begin by relaxing our muscles.  We can achieve this by systematically tensing muscle groups throughout the body and then relaxing the tension on the out-breath.  We can stretch the body and move into various postures, relaxing as we breathe out.

2. Relaxing the breath

When we are agitated our breathing becomes faster and more shallow.  When we slow and deepen our breathing we become calmer.  We can harness awareness of the out-breath through visualising tension streaming out of the body as we breath out; and we can cleanse the breath through alternate nostril breathing.

3. Relaxing the voice

When we are happy we may spontaneously burst into song, but it is hard to sing when we are sad or stressed.  We can therefore learn to relax through free energetic sound.  We can sing yogic syllables and give ourselves permission to make as much noise as we wish without caring about the harmony or disharmony of our voice.  We sing the sound Ahhhhhh for the length of an out-breath and release energetic tension with the sound.

4. Ready for meditation

Having relaxed the body we wish to retain this sense of comfort and calm when we start to meditate.  It is therefore essential to find a sitting posture for meditation in which we can be relaxed but alert.  Relaxing the mind is more difficult than relaxing the body so we want to be as physically comfortable as possible so that the body does not distract the mind.  The body should be upright, balanced and unrestricted.  The spine should be erect but relaxed. The body should be balanced and not twisted or placed in a position that requires effort to maintain.  Blood needs to flow freely to all parts of the body and in particular to the limbs without constriction or pressure.

5. Relaxing the mind

Meditation relaxes the mind through letting go of thought to experience mind without thought. Thought is an intricate conceptual mesh that surrounds the still deep quietness of empty mind and acts as a filter for everything that we experience.  To relax the mind we need to loosen and let go of this mesh in order to discover and understand mind when it is no longer defined by thought.  Thought is a natural process of mind but thought is not the essence of mind.  We can only discover ultimate relaxation if we learn to become familiar and comfortable in the empty essence of the nature of mind.  We begin by using the breath as a focus and letting go of thought as we breath out.  Over time we can let go of the breath as a focus and simply let go of thought whenever it arises.  Gradually spaciousness develops in the mind and it becomes easy to dwell in the space of mind without thought.

6. Daily practice

Learning to let go of thought and relax the mind requires commitment and effort. Meditating every day gradually allows the mind to settle and let go of thought, and increases our capacity to concentrate and experience spaciousness of mind.  It is more productive to meditate for a short period every day than it is to meditate for a longer period more occasionally.  The length of our daily practice must be realistic and easily achievable so that it does not become a burden or a chore.  Ten minutes of meditation a day is all that is required for meditation to  become a life skill that is simply part of who we are.  At first we will continually lose our focus and we may find this frustrating, but we must not develop self-deprecation.  Whenever we realise that we have lost concentration we must celebrate this as a moment of re-emerging awareness.   To recognise loss of awareness is to have regained awareness.  Over time a commitment to practising Letting Go every day will produce startling results.  We will start to understand our relationship with thought and develop increased awareness.  We will start to feel more relaxed about who we are.  We will start to feel less pressured by our life circumstances.  We will begin to let go of self-centredness and find joy in being kind to others.

7. Further practice

When we have established a daily practice of Letting Go we can experiment with contemplative practices that change our ordinary view.  We can examine our relationship with others through looking at how we interact with a friend, an enemy and a stranger.  We can practise purification visualisation to discover clarity, and we can practise methods of developing loving kindness to enrich ourselves and develop openness and generosity.  

Through relaxing the body we feel refreshed and invigorated.  Through relaxing the mind we discover openness and clarity.  Over time the moments of experience of mind without thought will lengthen and occur more frequently and this spaciousness of mind will start to sparkle in our everyday lives.  We will start to notice our habit patterns and cease to be their victim.  We will discover that we have a choice about who we are and how we live our lives.  We will discover emotion as naked energy and sensory experience will become enlivened.  We will find that we become more open, patient, tolerant and kind people through the spaciousness of mind we have realised.  We discover open appreciation and enjoyment and awaken to our natural state of well-being.
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Relaxing into Meditation by Ngakma Nor'dzin
Aro Books worldwide  ISBN 978-1-898185-17-8 http://bit.ly/nrprim

Available from Lulu.com, Amazon.co.uk, Amazon.com, and other bookshops worldwide. 

Wednesday, 19 January 2011

Tanzin Rinpoche review


I am delighted to hear from Zorba Publishers that they have received a review of Relaxing into Meditation from Lopön Ogyan Tanzin Rinpoche.  He wrote the foreword to my first book, Spacious Passion, so I am thrilled to receive his endorsement of my second book.  Many thanks to him.

The picture is of me with Tanzin Rinpoche and his wife Jomo Chöku Wangmo during their visit to Wales in 2004.  I accompanied Tanzin Rinpoche on a number of talks in various venues.  Here we are with the Religious Education 'A' level group at my son's school.  (He is the long-haired lad in a grey top directly behind Rinpoche and his wife.)

The text of the review follows:

In Relaxing into Meditation, Ngakma Nor’dzin, an English-born Buddhist lama with many years’ experience teaching meditation in community education, takes her readers on a journey, a journey of self-discovery through greater openness and awareness.

As she points out in her introduction, many people come to meditation seeking relaxation and relief from the stress of daily life. However, the discipline required to practise meditation may itself seem incompatible with such a goal. Furthermore, trying to learn meditation at times of great personal strain, as often happens when people approach the subject after facing bereavement, illness or other problems, may prove difficult. That is why she begins the book by introducing her readers to various techniques of relaxation, such as tensing and relaxing different parts of the body, using the experiences of listening to music or of singing, and breathing exercises. Other methods, such as gazing at a candle flame or singing sacred syllables, are gradually introduced in order to enhance the practice and as a transition to meditation per se. Indeed, it is only out of a state of profound relaxation of body and mind that the fruits of meditation can ultimately be reaped.

Meditation as understood here has nothing particularly exotic about it, but is rather a simple way of developing greater awareness and mindfulness. As the author notes, we can thereby learn to step aside and take a look at the roller coaster of our lives, or else enjoy riding the roller coaster with keener awareness. Here, readers are taught to let go of the thoughts arising in their mind. The meditation progresses from first counting the out-breaths to merely focusing on the out-breath until one engages with formless practice.

Other methods explained in this book include meditation on loving kindness and sounding and visualizing a white A syllable. Visualization is indeed a powerful method of meditation, as it allows one to transform the mind. The author is right to emphasize that it is necessary not just to have a mental image, but indeed to have a felt awareness of the deity visualized. For all these meditation exercises, our body’s posture is a great support in our practice, so that an entire chapter is devoted to the subject. Generally speaking, the posture should enable us to engage with the practice in a way that is relaxed yet alert. Meditation cushions and belt can be helpful in this regard, and the book contains several appendices with practical instructions to fabricate them.

Rather than being a dry scholarly treatment of the subject, it is that of an adept who shares her own experience and know-how with her readers – it is certain that this hands-on approach will be much appreciated by practitioners. Of course, in learning an art as profound and subtle as meditation, a book, however well written, cannot act as a replacement for a living teacher, who will guide students according to their particular needs and faculties. However, this book, written in clear and simple prose, certainly provides a useful starting point for beginners interested in learning meditation. The wealth of methods it offers may also serve as a memory-aid to more advanced practitioners.

Approached as a technique for well-being, meditation no doubt may help us find a greater sense of peace and fulfilment in our lives. But as a method of spiritual development, it can yield far profounder benefits, ranging from the physical through the emotional and intellectual to the spiritual: it can indeed allow us to tap into our deepest human potential and uncover the spacious and luminous nature of our mind.

Lopon P. Ogyan Tanzin (Ogyan Chokhor Ling, Sarnath, Varanasi, India).

Tuesday, 11 January 2011

Western Mail – How to: meditate

The Western Mail—a prominent South Wales newspaper—features a ‘how to . . . ’ article in their Lifestyle section every Tuesday.  Today they featured my article ‘How to : meditate’.  They shortened and altered the text slightly for publication.  Below is the full article in its original form:

how to . . .

… relax into meditation

Many people want to learn how to meditate because they believe it will help them with stress and teach them to live contentedly with a sense of well-being. It is true that meditation has the potential to achieve this in our lives, but this will only be possible if meditation becomes a regular activity – preferably a daily practice. Trying to meditate even for as long as half an hour when you have little experience can become a daunting prospect.

So how can we start to meditate and establish a practice that is enjoyable and sustainable? A good place to begin is with relaxing the body:

Either lying down or sitting in a chair systematically tense muscle groups throughout the body and then breathe away tension on the out-breath. Tense the arms and then relax them as you breathe out. Tense the hands and then relax them as you breathe out. Then do the same with the legs and feet. Next move to the shoulders tensing them forwards and then relaxing, backwards and then relaxing and bringing them up to your ears and then relaxing. Always relax on the out-breath. Then follow the same procedure with the stomach muscles and then the buttock muscles, tensing and relaxing. Finally stretch the neck muscles relaxing into the stretch on the out-breath: gently roll the neck first to the left and then to the right; lift the head back to stretch the neck under the chin, and then bring your chin to your chest to stretch the back of the neck; tip your head first to the left and then to the right trying to bring your ear to your shoulder to stretch the sides of the neck. Relax into the stretch on the out-breath.

Repeat this process of tense and relaxing until your body feels heavy and relaxed and your breathing is slow and regular. Remain for a few moments focusing on your breathing and luxuriating in the experience of warm relaxation.

Once your body is relaxed and your breathing calm, you are ready to move into meditation. Slowly and gradually adjust your posture so that you are sitting with the back upright, the body supported, and in a position that the blood can flow freely around your body. This may be a cross-legged position or in a chair – whatever is comfortable for you. You want to take the relaxation of the previous exercise into your sitting posture.

Meditate by bringing your attention to your breathing, particularly noticing the out-breath. As you breathe out let go of thought – let go of whatever is in your mind. If you find this difficult count the out-breaths from 1 up to 21 and then back down to 1. If you get lost in a thought story—planning your next shopping trip, revisiting a memory, going over a problem at work—just let it go on the next out-breath. Every time you realise that you have lost focus this is a moment of re-emerging awareness. Gradually it will become easier to let go of thought and remain focused, and you will start to experience moments of mind without thought.

Practice this meditation of letting go of thought for ten minutes every day and you will start to discover the quality of mind when it is no longer dominated and defined by thought. Thought is a natural process of mind but thought is not the essence of mind. The nature of mind is spacious. It is clarity. As spacious clarity is discovered in meditation it will start to sparkle in everyday life. Habit patterns lose their power to dominate our responses. Sensory experience becomes enlivened.

Meditate every day for just ten minutes and you will become more open, patient, tolerant and kind through the spaciousness of mind you have discovered. Relax the body, and then take this into meditation to discover relaxation of mind.




Relaxing into Meditation by Ngakma Nor'dzin
Aro Books worldwide  ISBN 978-1-898185-17-8 http://bit.ly/nrprim

Available from Lulu.com, Amazon.co.uk, Amazon.com, and other bookshops worldwide. 

Tuesday, 13 July 2010

Audio teaching

The Aro Lineage website has a number of audio teachings that can be listened to or downloaded.  One of these recordings is of me teaching an introduction to shi-nè meditation. 


The photograph is of the shrine room in our home, Aro Khalding Tsang, in Cardiff.  We host a weekly meditation and study group here on a Tuesday evening which all are welcome to attend.